Emotional Affairs 101
An emotional affair generally starts innocently enough as a friendship.
Here's information about what an emotional affair is, how an emotional affair differs from a platonic friendship, warning signs of an emotional affair, how to protect yourself from an emotional affair, a quiz, poll, and more.
Through investing emotional energy and time with one another outside the marriage relationship, the former platonic friendship can begin to form a strong emotional bond which hurts the intimacy of the marriage relationship.
While there are those who believe that an emotional affair is harmless, most marriage experts view an emotional affair as cheating without having a sexual relationship.
Emotional affairs are often gateway affairs leading to full blown sexual infidelity.
"About half of such emotional involvements do eventually turn into full-blown affairs, sex and all."
What is an Emotional Affair?
An emotional affair is when a person not only invests more of their emotional energy outside their marriage, but also receives emotional support and companionship from the new relationship.
In an emotional affair, a person feels closer to the other party and may experience increasing sexual tension.
If you believe that a person's emotional energy is limited, then if your spouse is sharing intimate thoughts and feelings with someone else, an emotional affair has developed.
Although cheaters are often guilt-free in an emotional affair because there is no sex involved, their spouses often view an emotional affair as damaging as a sexual affair.
Much of the pain and hurt from an emotional affair is due to the deception, lies, and feelings of being betrayed.
Quiz - Are You in an Emotional Affair?
If you answer "yes" to more than 2 or 3 of these questions, you are courting disaster in your marriage by being in an emotional affair.
Are you experiencing repetitive hostility and conflict in your marriage?
Do you feel an emotional distance from your spouse?
Do you find it difficult to talk with your spouse?
Are you sharing more with your friend than you are with your spouse?
Do you think your friend understands you better than your spouse?
Are you sexually attracted to your friend?
Is the phrase, "We're just friends", your rationalization for your close friendship?
Does your spouse know about your friendship or is your friendship a secret?
Do you look forward to being with your friend more than being with your spouse?
Build a Relationship With a Foundation of Friendship and Trust !!!
You can affair-proof your marriage by working together to have a marriage based on friendship and trust.
Here are some suggestions on how to build that foundation and keys to protecting your marriage from an emotional affair.
Plan on living a balanced life with one another.
Have dates with each other and create ways to have fun together.
Don't let irritations build up. Learn how to have healthy conflict in your marriage.
Communicate on a daily basis with each other. Talk about practical issues, plans, events, and personal feelings. The little things to talk about are as important as the bigger issues.
Be supportive of one another.
Show respect for each other !!!
Source : About.com